An anonymous sharing by a Malaysian woman regarding her marriage went viral on social media recently, with many left perplexed by the actions of her husband.
The sharing, originally shared in the Tanya Peguam (translated to English as Ask a Lawyer) Facebook group, was reposted on X by user @AidaSue.
As of the time of writing, the X post garnered over 13,000 reposts and 10,000 likes, with many feeling sorry for the woman for having to deal with her husband’s antics.
In the post, the woman shared that she has been married for 7 years and has a 5-year-old child with her husband. She then revealed that she used to be an architect but quit right after getting married to her husband, who works as an engineer.
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She asserted,
“My husband’s salary is around RM8,000/month. His monthly commitment is his own expenses, the water, electricity and Unifi bills, the house instalment of RM2,500, the car is fully paid off, insurance of around RM1,000/month and money for his mother at the village.”
“My husband only pays for my food when we eat outside together.”
The woman then shared her main grievances in the marriage, whereby after tying the knot, the husband forbids her from working but at the same time, he doesn’t give her any pocket money.
She elaborated,
“After getting married, my husband forbids me from working. At the same time, he doesn’t give me any pocket money. He will pay for household items such as soap, shampoo and others when we go out to buy them together. He never gave me any cash or pocket money.”
“My phone line bills, my insurance and money to give to my mother each month, he asked me to use my own money or just terminate the insurance plan and not use a smartphone. My husband said that he shouldn’t be bearing all those expenses because they were from when I was still working as an architect.”
The woman then revealed that during the early years of their marriage, she would use her savings to pay for her monthly commitments.
When her savings have dried up, she secretly sells desserts from home when her husband is out working. At first, the husband also forbade her from selling pastries, because he’s ashamed if his friends would find out that he got a “wife that sells pastries”.
However, after finding out that the sales were doing well, he allowed her to continue selling pastries, just as long as his office colleagues wouldn’t find out.
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The woman said that she earned a net profit of around RM2,000 to RM4,000 monthly from selling pastries, but this was merely enough for her to pay her monthly commitments and provide money for her mother in the village.
Things got worse too as her husband, after knowing that she has income from the business from home, told her to pay for all household expenses and to claim from him each month.
However, the husband only allows her to claim certain things, whereby he won’t entertain claims for the below:
- Electricity and Coway bills, because the husband claims she’s been using too much electricity making pastries
- Her lunch expenses, because he claims that she’s now technically working so she has to pay for her own food. He will only pay for her food if they eat dinner together
- Their son’s preschool tuition fee, because he claims that children under the age of 5 don’t need to go to school yet
- Food for their child, because he claims that why have a pastry business if she’s stingy towards the child
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Well, if you think that’s bad enough, the husband hasn’t even given any money since May this year, even for legitimate claims under the arbitrary system he himself created!
The husband claimed that he doesn’t have any money but the woman revealed that his savings exceeded RM800,000. Furthermore, whenever she claims money from her husband, he scolds her saying, why run a pastry business if she still has to claim money from him and telling her to just quit selling pastries if it’s too troublesome.
The woman then stressed that she had long wanted to divorce her husband and wanted to do it peacefully. However, the husband refused, saying that their child was still young and that he would bear the shame of being a divorcee with his friends and family.
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So, what do you guys think of the whole situation? Share your thoughts with us in the comments.
This post first appeared on WORLD OF BUZZ.
