DISCLOSURE in the Dewan Rakyat on the scale of domestic violence affecting males in our country, with more 6,000 cases reported in the last four years and 1,183 as of July 2025 is timely.

This revelation compels us to speak out. To our fellow brothers, fathers, sons, and friends: you are not alone. There is nothing to be ashamed of, and society should no longer allow this issue to fester in the dark.

We must confront the uncomfortable truth that society’s rigid expectations of manhood can make it profoundly difficult for male victims to come forward. Many fear being judged, not being believed, belittled or being viewed as less of a man.

These fears are valid, but they should not be a barrier to safety and healing with Deputy Women, Family and Community Development Minister Datuk Seri Dr Noraini Ahmad saying that domestic violence is not solely a women’s issue but a humanitarian one.

A man’s tears may rarely be seen, but the wounds they hide are deep and can affect or even torment victims, leading to mental and even physical health problems because suffering in silence knows no gender.

This conversation must also include our underage males. The principles of protection we uphold must extend to every child. The revelation of male victimisation inevitably raises concerns about the welfare of male minors as well.

We must be equally vigilant in recognising and addressing their plight, ensuring they are afforded every protection under laws like the Sexual Offences against Children Act (SOAC) and the Child Act, should any cases of physical abuse or sexual offences or grooming against minor males be detected.

MCA Youth therefore urges every member of society to become a pillar of support. If a man—or a boy—confides in you about being a victim of domestic violence or sexual abuse, grooming, your response is critical.

Please, do not scoff or dismiss them. Listen without judgment, believe their story, and offer your support. Encourage them to seek professional help, such as the counselling services where they can choose to speak with a male counsellor, which can make it easier to open up, and to even lodge a police report.

Practical steps can make a world of difference, from helping them document the abuse to reaching out to dedicated helplines like the Talian Kasih 15999 hotline.

The society needs a combined effort to break this cycle of silence together. There is no shame but bravery to talk about it openly, while compassion and empathy contribute towards lifting each other up. No one should have to face this pain alone. ‒ Oct 31, 2025

Mike Chong is the MCA National Youth Deputy Chairman.

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