I Am In Love With My Male Friend Of 7 Years & I Don’t Know How To Tell Him About My Feelings

10 Feb 2023 • 12:21 PM MYT
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I’m currently listening to a podcast where they’re talking about the fear of rejection. I love listening to podcasts because, to me, they’re calming and relaxing.

I’m too afraid to confess to the person… We’ve actually been friends for more than 7 years now, so I don’t want to ruin that either.

I’m 20 years old right now, and he’s 23 years old. We’re childhood friends.

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[image taken by the author, mushamir mustafa]

What I like about him is that he’s really supportive and kind, and he’s actually a poet. That’s my weakness, truly, because I love poetry, and I love his poems. We don’t get to see each other that often because he’s in University. We see each other about twice a month, probably, and usually we’d just hang out, get coffee, chill, and chat.

I don’t think I have shown signs that I’m interested in him (well, he hasn’t really gotten my signal), and I cannot say for sure that he has shown much interest in me. So, that’s why I have this fear to begin with! (laughs).

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I’ve never been rejected before because my romantic experiences have always been “puppy love.” But I feel like this is more serious because I really like him… That’s why I’m so afraid to ask him out or to express my feelings.

If I had to confess to him, I’d probably just invite him out for coffee, talk to him more, and then tell him how much I liked him.

But I don’t think I could do it. I’m afraid… Maybe I’ll try one day… I don’t know when (laughs), but I’ll try.

I had a boyfriend previously, but we broke up two years ago. He cheated on me with my best friend. I found out when I saw her texting him. I don’t talk to either of them, and I don’t think they even got together.

Honestly, I wasn’t mad at my best friend at the time because my ex-boyfriend was actually the first one who initiated it. My best friend wasn’t reciprocating romantically, but she did talk badly about me to him. I have other friends, and I was closest to her, but she treated me like this.

 

What did you learn from the podcast?

I just started listening, actually! But so far, I’ve learned that it’s better to just confess to the person you like.

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[image taken by the author, mushamir mustafa]

“If they don’t like me back, then I’ll just have to accept it. If I don’t tell them how I feel, then I’ll just stay in the same place and hope for something that won’t arrive.”

I know I should confess, but I’m still going to take small steps towards it.

 

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