According to XUAN解忧树洞, a man says his wife has always been highly suspicious when it comes to his interactions with other women.
At his previous company, he became friends with a female coworker whose personality was more like “one of the guys”. The two got along well and eventually became quite close.
During a company conference, everyone took a group photo, and the female coworker casually put her arm around his shoulder for the picture. Although he considered the gesture completely innocent, his wife became upset over the photo, and the couple ended up arguing about it several times.
On another occasion, the man was travelling when he spotted a facial cream that his former coworker had previously purchased. He casually took a photo of the product and sent it to her.
His wife was unhappy when she found out, accusing him of still thinking about the woman.
According to the man, his wife often reminds him that there should be boundaries between people. She has also pointed out that just because he has no romantic feelings towards his female coworker does not necessarily mean the other woman feels the same way.
The man later left the company and joined a new workplace, but he continued to occasionally keep in touch with his former coworker.
His wife questioned why he still needed to contact someone from his previous workplace after leaving the company. He explained that there were certain matters he might want to seek advice from her about, which was why they remained in contact.
He insists that he has done nothing wrong, questioning why his wife remains so concerned about the friendship even though they no longer see each other every day.
He also felt that occasionally inviting his former coworker out for lunch should not be an issue.
However, the situation became more complicated when he discovered that his wife had been secretly checking his conversations with the woman.
At one point, he deleted their entire chat history because he did not want his wife to continue overthinking the situation.
Instead of reassuring her, however, the deleted messages made his wife even more suspicious. She believed he had deliberately destroyed the conversations to hide something from her.
The man maintains that there was nothing inappropriate in the conversations and that the messages were deleted simply to prevent further misunderstandings.
Now, he is left questioning whether he has genuinely crossed a boundary by maintaining contact with his former female coworker, or whether his wife's suspicion has gone too far.
The question he wants to ask netizens is simple: Is he really in the wrong, or is his wife's jealousy the bigger problem?
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